STUPID ActiveSync, about to throw the PDA through the window

I'm just about ready the throw my *new* PDA through out the window. no matter what I do I can't get embedded visual c++ to download the compiled file to it...
It a HTC wizard (i-mate k-jam). I've installed various ROM's to see if it's a "lock-out" feature. The first time you compile it downloads the 2 files requred to the windows folder, and EVC++ says "server started", then nothing..... it just times out. I'm using Activesync 4.5 and EVC++ 4Sp4.
I've broken partnerships, re-installed, hard reset, re-rommed.... ahhhhhhhhh
HELP ME!!! I'm at my wits end, lol
-thanks.
It a HTC wizard (i-mate k-jam). I've installed various ROM's to see if it's a "lock-out" feature. The first time you compile it downloads the 2 files requred to the windows folder, and EVC++ says "server started", then nothing..... it just times out. I'm using Activesync 4.5 and EVC++ 4Sp4.
I've broken partnerships, re-installed, hard reset, re-rommed.... ahhhhhhhhh
HELP ME!!! I'm at my wits end, lol
-thanks.