Library Girl Thread

[Warren]

[James S]

I'm feeling a little down right now. My girlfriend loves me so much. She's always so eager to talk to me, on the phone, online, in the morning, at night, during the day... But she has no real ambition at all. She's getting a degree in Music with an emphasis on performance, and then is wanting to go to graduate school to get a master's. She doesn't have a clue what she'll do with those degrees. She doesn't want to play in a symphony orchestra or anything like that. I think she just wants to do nothing and be a house wife mostly, and she's just going to school for the heck of it. That bothers me somewhat, especially in the mood I'm in right now.

I've emailed her, trying to coax some thought about this out of her. I'll see what I can get. I just thought I'd post, because this is on my mind.

I need to start a new Xanga site, one that she doesn't know about, one that I can lock.

[sandmann]

What's wrong with being a housewife? That's awfully mysoginistic of you Moose. How is staying home and caring for children (presuming you want them) any less of an accomplishment than holding a career? How is it less ambitious to plan to oversee the raising of your children than it is to plan to work in the business field?

And if you had children (provided that you stay together for that long), would you want her trying to raise them and commit to a full-time career at the same time? Didn't think so.

[sponge]

How dare you suggest that women may be happy as a housewife! Women are able to hold down 2 full time careers, and still raise their children perfectly fine! It's people like you that set women's rights back 50 years, at least.

Now excuse me while I go watch some Lifetime.

[sirlgsalot]

Its kinda ironic that Lifetime claims to be "television for women", but everytime I see it, there is a woman getting the shit beaten out of her.

[James S]

What I'm looking for is ambition, not a career objective. The way she talks about doing these things makes me think she's just doing it for the heck of it, or for the fun of it. My mother worked when I was young, and so did my father, all through my life. It's not a difficult arrangement, especially when my mother was a lawyer and made her own hours. I plan on owning a small family practice and doing the same thing. I'm the one that's eager to have kids, to take care of them, and wanting to spend my time with my (potential) children. It just seems like she thinks she's going to fall into doing something and that she has no dreams about life at all. When I dream as big as I do it's kind of ... different to me. I find ambition to be an attractive trait in a woman, I'm trying to find it in her.

Sandy, you're good at trying to make everyone a bigot.

[RICoder]

[sandmann]

[Warren]

[sirlgsalot]

[Chad]

[sirlgsalot]

[Caesar]

[sponge]

[sirlgsalot]